Navigating Transition without losing yourself

Navigating Transition

Navigating transition will be one of the most challenging things you do. Not because you lack resilience or because you can’t cope, but because change has a way of unravelling and destabilising what was to create space for what is.

When Everything Changed

I’ve been reflecting on my own transitions lately. The biggest being when my mum died and how much my life as I knew it changed.

Before this, I loved my job and my career. I had spent most of my life trying to climb the corporate ladder to “make it.” I had even planned to move up to the next level after the Christmas break and was actively putting things in place to make that a reality.

Then my mum passed away unexpectedly, and I found myself questioning everything in my life as I knew it.

I wanted to know what my life purpose was and how I could go about exploring that. I tried lots of different things, manifestation, manufacturing purpose based on my likes, before I finally stumbled on human design.

Human design gave me language for what I had been feeling, but it also illuminated everything I had ignored most of my life.

When Alignment Shifts

What once felt certain and warm didn’t anymore.

That job I loved dearly quickly changed to a soul-sucking place to be that I could just about tolerate. Then came the pressure to build and create a life on my terms.

But I couldn’t do this without my job. I have bills and a family to take care of. Trying to do both was a transition in and of itself.

My old identity was slipping away, but the new version of me was still very much in the making.

This is one of the main reasons I’m not a huge fan of the “fake it until you make it” attitude. Rarely are we solely present in one identity. We are usually in between worlds, because two truths can co-exist at any given point in time.

Holding Dual Roles

Holding dual roles brings its own complexities.

Confidence is something we learn through repetition, with an open mind and heart, remembering we are still the student, not the teacher.

Society encourages us to numb this aspect and pretend we know it all straight away. But doing this can often cause more harm than good. If you ignore where you need to deepen your knowledge and mask it, eventually you will see that your confidence is engineered, and actually, you don’t know a great deal about much.

Success Doesn’t Create Alignment

When I was gaining traction in my business, I kept feeling uneasy.

In the moment I was beyond elated, but the quiet spells in between were often the most challenging. Those moments required patience and belief in something I couldn’t see.

What I learnt was that no sale could give me the inner feeling of alignment. That is built deep within, the quiet inner knowing that you’re on the right path.

The Power of Conditioning

Those limiting beliefs about my sense of self and my abilities kept resurfacing each time I made a sale.

I would think: maybe it was a one-off. Maybe this is going to be a hobby.

I found this interesting because I had no objective evidence to prove this. In fact, it was the opposite. Yet I was inclined to believe it in the midst of success.

This is the power of conditioning.

Truthfully, she will always be with me whenever I expand. The difference is my relationship with her has drastically changed.

I don’t try to banish low confidence or scarcity. I comfort and reassure her — not through forced affirmations, but by bringing awareness to the patterns and gently challenging them to diffuse their intensity.

That is the catalyst for a new perspective to take place.

Awareness changes everything and puts you back in the driver’s seat of your life.

Becoming Aligned

This is the work I guide you through in Becoming Aligned.

We are not aiming for an end destination. I’m showing you how to engage with the journey of life and change how you see your setbacks, because most are catalysts for change if you are prepared to ease yourself into the discomfort.

As women, we will always be in a season of transition.

The key is understanding how to navigate it without the overwhelm or losing yourself in the process.