Feeling Stuck Isn’t Failure. It’s a Signal You Shouldn’t Ignore.

Why so many women feel stuck

This week I wanted to talk about a theme I’m seeing a lot — women who feel stuck.

Stuck in their business.

Stuck in their life.

Stuck not knowing what the next aligned step is.

I don’t know if it’s because it’s January. It’s a reflective month, and there’s that pressure of “new year, new you” which brings a lot to the surface. But I’m seeing this across the board in Facebook groups, with clients, and in conversations generally.

Feeling stuck can be challenging. For me, it’s just a gear of misalignment.

We can feel stuck because of external pressures — feeling like we should be doing something by a certain point, or that we should know the answers. In business, you might feel you should know how to move the needle forward. In life or career, you might feel you should know the way ahead. You might not even be in business at all. Anyone can feel stuck.

Why I Work With the Felt State, Not the Label

There’s a lot of talk about niching — niche down, niche down, niche down.

I do have a niche, but what I really communicate to is the felt state.

The women I work with might have very different lives, but what they share is the same internal experience — feeling stuck.

That’s where my work is. That’s what my Becoming Aligned framework moves women through — from stuckness and chaos to their own personal clarity.

The first thing to release is the conditioned belief that being stuck means something has gone wrong.

Being stuck usually means something isn’t working internally. It’s misalignment. It’s information asking you to pause, slow down, and go inward. That’s how clarity comes back online.

What Happens When You Slow Down

When you slow down and sit with misalignment, creativity returns. Your connection to yourself, your intuition, and your desires comes back online.

Your internal compass refires.

Suddenly you can see why something didn’t work and where you actually want to move next — not from “should”, but from desire.

Those two feel very different.

Conditioned movement feels heavy.

Desire feels expansive, optimistic, and good.

My Own Experience of Feeling Stuck

I want to normalise this — being stuck is very normal, even for people who seem experienced.

Recently, I felt stuck in my business.

I’d run a free Align session in December and it went really well. I worked one-to-one with a woman who came through, and it was a great session. So I ran it again — and no one signed up.

Because I’ve been in misalignment many times, I didn’t see this as failure. I became curious.

I realised that “building your business from the inside out” was actually a few steps ahead of where my ideal client was. My ideal client isn’t thinking about strategy — she’s stuck. She just wants to move forward.

That misaligned moment showed me I needed to speak more directly to the pain of being stuck and how to move through it — not from mindset, but energetically.

That same day, I received feedback from a client session I’d had weeks earlier. It affirmed everything I’d just realised about my ideal client and where she was.

That wasn’t a coincidence.

Being “Not Stuck Enough” Is Still Being Stuck

Sometimes we think we’re not stuck enough to take action.

But stuckness is a spectrum.

For me, it showed up as scattered energy, too many platforms, too many directions, working against my design. I have Gate 9 in my Venus, which is about deep focus, yet I was spread across social media, Substack, Pinterest, Facebook,and the podcast.

My transmission was weakened.

That misalignment gave me clarity around streamlining, repurposing, and choosing what actually supports my energy.

Misalignment Refines You

Trial and error is part of business and life. You don’t get it right the first time.

Even something as simple as using hook templates for Instagram helped me structure what I already knew — not define my content, but elevate it.

That’s the point.

Structures should support your expression, not replace it.

Being in misalignment allowed me to slow down, listen, and ask better questions — from curiosity, not judgment.

Why Misalignment Is Central to My Work

What’s been interesting is realising that misalignment is actually where my work lives.

My Mercury gate is the Gate of Limitation. For a long time, I didn’t understand how that applied to business. But misalignment is perceived limitation — it stops you, slows you, and forces you to look.

I don’t see misalignment as something to rush through. I see it as a place to gather information, insight, and clarity for your next aligned step.

This wasn’t intentional. It unfolded naturally.

And that’s what I help women do — work with misalignment instead of against it.

You Don’t Have to Box Yourself In

Niching is a spectrum.

I don’t anchor into age, job title, or circumstance. I anchor into emotional state.

I work with women who feel stuck. They know something isn’t right, but they can’t access clarity. They try to force their way forward using their mind, and become more misaligned.

Serving from the felt state allows you to reach the right people without boxing yourself in.

Final Thought

Being stuck isn’t failure.

It’s a signal to change something before you continue.

Slow down enough to hear what’s being asked of you. Question from curiosity. Let misalignment show you what needs to shift.

That’s where clarity lives.