The Delicate Dance Of Giving Your Attention To The Right People

And what the power discernment can teach us

One of your most prized possessions is your attention. Whenever you’re considering if someone is in alignment with you as a person, a good starting place is to consider the value they are offering, and the authenticity of the expression you’re receiving.

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In the world of conscious creation and energetics, space for contemplation and resonance is key. As creators, if we are genuinely being of service, we need to allow those we serve the time to fully understand our teachings and integrate them into their lives. We’ve all been on the receiving end of something impactful that pulls us into a deep contemplative space. It sparks something in us and wants to emerge. It’s a beautiful process.

We can’t reach that depth if we are posting multiple Notes a day, because we inevitably shift into competing for attention. We’ve entered the noise. We start playing the game of frequency and relevance. And in that space, the purity of what we transmit becomes diluted.

When that happens, the real question becomes:

Who are we serving in this moment our community or our conditioning?

When we serve our community, we offer spaciousness.

When we serve our conditioning, we mimic what we see around us and fear disappearing if we’re not constantly visible. I know because I myself have fallen into this trap in a bid to grow and be more visible. I didn’t grow, I entered misalignment which proved to be my greatest gift.

Your people will find you, but it won’t be fast-paced or frantic. It will have the ebb and flow of nature. And you’ll know you’re evolving at a pace that’s right for you. This feeling is your truest anchor.

If you’re seeing a high number of Notes from someone each day, it’s likely you’re part of their growth strategy rather than a personal connection. There’s nothing inherently wrong with this, every creator has a strategy, but the delivery and intention behind it varies. Over time you start to notice the repeated patterns and the subtlety that once existed begins to fade. The illusion drops.

So does this mean that we shouldn’t aspire to grow and be more visible as creators? No, not at all. Growth is important to all of us and when we come from a place of depth it doesn’t exclude growth, but what it does do is it creates meaningful growth, the sweet spot. We should be living examples of our work and what we are teaching/guiding others through.

Discernment helps you recognise the work built on integrity and depth versus the work created to sustain momentum.

When we nurture the community we already have, we create unmistakable experiences for the people who have chosen to be in our world. They become the reminder of why we followed our heart’s desires in the first place.

Our current community is not something we “outgrow.” They are the foundation of our work, the ones who have already felt our resonance and welcomed it into their lives.

We live in a culture that encourages more of everything, more growth, more visibility, more expansion. And sometimes that desire for “more” distracts us from the core foundations that allowed us to create anything meaningful in the first place.

Gratitude isn’t in what we say, it’s in how we hold space for the people who have already said yes. It’s in the value we offer, the consistency of our integrity, and our commitment to what we set out to do.

New people will join, of course. But just like arriving late to a gathering, they come in quietly, observe, feel the room, and emerge when they’re ready to participate. There’s room for both depth and growth, but only when the foundation is rooted in genuine connection rather than urgency.