The Power Of Being You, The Real You
One of the hardest things about being human isn't making decisions. It's knowing whether the desire behind the decision is actually yours.
Somewhere along the way we absorb ideas about the life we should want, the career we should have, the relationships we should build, and even the version of ourselves we're supposed to become. After a while, it becomes difficult to tell where those expectations end and our own desires begin.
It took me a long time to realise that not every desire I was chasing belonged to me.
I don't know if you experience this, but for me there is something that just alerts my senses to whether a message is genuine or not, whether it's coming from a place of truth or obligation. Let's dive in.
I see a lot of "follow my exact formula to get the results I did," usually followed by some impressive number. The specifics change, but the pattern doesn't.
It made me realise that discernment isn't about becoming more sceptical. It's about becoming more familiar with yourself.
Quite simply, we are all very unique and individual, and when we start buying into someone else's formula and try to implement it wholesale, we quickly lose our sense of self and our confidence.
Things to Ask Yourself Before You Go Balls Deep
Is this my heart's desire, or a conditioned desire? A simple but highly effective question.
Following on from the first — why do I want this outcome? What's actually driving this decision?
What am I not being shown? The raw figures rarely tell the whole story. There's usually a gap between what's advertised and what's actually true once the full picture is on the table.
How does this message feel for you — where does it land in your body? Tune into that, because your body knows if something is true or not, but most importantly, if it's really meant for you.
Human Design didn't tell me what to want. It helped me recognise the difference between the desires that expanded me and the ones I'd quietly inherited from everyone around me. It gave me language for patterns I'd been living long before I knew how to explain them.
Once you're clear on the answers, and you're leading with your heart's desires, your life starts to flow with ease, because it's finally yours. It becomes a natural expression of you.
People feel it when you're being true to yourself. It's an energetic frequency that has an unmistakable imprint on us. Don't waste your time trying to be someone else.
Three Questions I Return To Whenever I'm Unsure
Allow yourself to just be. Take the passenger seat for a while and see how certain requests and invitations make you feel. If you feel a sense of restriction or contraction within your body, it's likely not the right yes for you.
Sit and think about the key areas of your life — work, family, relationships, friendships, and your relationship with yourself. Where do you feel able to really be yourself, and where do you experience the most joy? Now think about where you feel the opposite of this. We want to expand the feeling of self-expression and happiness to the other areas too, so how can we do that? What needs to be released to receive it?
Speak and express first, think later. Your first response to most things, within reason, is usually your truest expression, before your logical mind wades in. Try leading with this, even if it feels uncomfortable to start with. Journal your reflections on what comes up. What do you feel naturally inclined to talk about and share? How does it feel when you take the plunge and let that come through?
You don't become yourself. You remember yourself beneath the conditioning.
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If you're ready to reconnect with who you really are, my free audio guide, One Decision At A Time, is a good place to start — it walks you through recalling your own decisions and noticing how your body responded to each. Or if you'd rather talk it through, book a free Alignment Exploration Call.
